Let Go, Accept, and Grow: A Deeper Look at Chapters 7, 9, and 10 of The Let Them Theory by Mel Robbins
Let Go, Accept, and Grow: A Deeper Look at Chapters 7, 9, and 10 of The Let Them Theory by Mel Robbins
Mel Robbins' The Let Them Theory is more than a mindset—it's a gentle (yet powerful) shift in how we approach people, relationships, and our inner world. Chapters 7, 9, and 10 stand out as practical guides for emotional maturity, personal acceptance, and growth through self-awareness.
Chapter 7: When Grown-Ups Throw Tantrums
In this eye-opening chapter, Robbins explores how adults can exhibit emotionally immature behaviors that look a lot like childhood tantrums—passive aggression, stonewalling, overreacting—especially when under pressure or facing unmet expectations. She encourages readers to step out of reactive roles and choose empathy instead.
The "Let Them" mindset isn’t about allowing disrespect, but about choosing not to internalize or control other people’s emotional outbursts. When we stop trying to manage someone else's behavior and focus instead on our response, we create healthier emotional boundaries and stronger self-respect.
Chapter 9: Let Them Be Human
Here, Robbins reminds us of a trap many of us fall into: falling in love with someone’s potential instead of accepting who they really are. Whether it’s a friend, partner, or coworker, trying to mold someone into an ideal only leads to disappointment.
“Let them be human” is an invitation to drop expectations and embrace reality. People are messy, imperfect, and evolving—just like us. This chapter challenges us to stop forcing change and instead love people (and ourselves) in the now.
Chapter 10: How to Make Comparison Your Teacher
Comparison is often seen as the thief of joy—but Robbins argues it doesn’t have to be. In Chapter 10, she encourages us to view comparison not as a judgment, but as a teacher. That twinge of envy you feel? It's a clue. It's pointing to something you desire.
Instead of spiraling into insecurity, Robbins suggests asking: What does this envy reveal about what I want? From that place of awareness, you can take inspired action.
A great example she shares (in podcast form) is of Molly, a small business owner who envied her neighbor’s social media presence. Rather than stewing in jealousy, she used that insight to invest in her brand—and it paid off.
The key takeaway: comparison doesn't have to be toxic. It can be transformative if you let it guide your growth instead of shaking your confidence.
Putting It All Together: The Power of Letting Go
Across these chapters, Robbins delivers a message of freedom—freedom from unrealistic expectations, emotional entanglements, and destructive self-talk.
Let them throw tantrums.
Let them be human.
Let comparison teach you.
When we stop trying to fix or force the world around us, we gain the clarity and energy to grow within ourselves.
Interested in hearing more?
Check out the full podcast episode here:
How to Make Comparison Your Teacher – The Let Them Theory by Mel Robbins